It is often said that grief is a universal experience. How could it not be, when loss is a natural part of life? In spite of this, most of us fear grief, both in others and in ourselves. Perhaps we lack familiarity with the deeper purpose of grief. We do not see how our grief can guide us through pain and uncertainty into a new relationship with ourselves, with others, and with life.
To undertake the journey through grief is to embrace change. Indeed, one of the most common themes in grief is change. A significant loss, particularly the death of a loved one, may alter many things; where you live and who lives with you, your finances, your responsibilities… the list goes on. But what of the changes that take place within? Indeed, grief can change a person so significantly that they emerge from the depths with a new identity. They have a different perspective.
People who have journeyed with grief have a keen sense for what is most important in life, and they know the value of time. Their priorities align with what they cherish. They embrace the changing nature of their grief over time, and so develop resilience, determination, and strength. The grieving person knows they are changed for good… and perhaps, in some ways, even for the better.
Good Grief Reflections 